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What if I told you that amidst the drugged up kids, rampant promiscuity, AI threats, and hopelessness amongst the young, you could become a beacon of mature masculinity? In these turbulent times, the need for strong, positive change is more urgent than ever. Today, let’s explore how you can rise above the chaos and make a meaningful impact.
Ciao! I’m PAULIS.
As a dancer and choreographer who can lift anyone and a published AI researcher with a Bachelor of Science from the University of Edinburgh, I’ve spent years maximising myself in both physical and intellectual realms. Whether it’s backflips, computer vision, or interpersonal psychology, I’ve long dedicated myself to continuous growth and improvement.
We will build our own little pockets of Eden. I will clear up some of the discussion around masculinity, so you can recognise your unfulfilled cravings in life for what they are – a skill issue. And skills can be improved. Growth mindset baby.
We will discuss the need for this epic mature masculinity in a world that seems to be falling apart. Compare my understanding of epic masculinity in contrast to how the School of Life sees it. Ending on what to do with this newfound masculinity. Which will lead you nicely to my next videos, where I will discuss actionable steps and daily implementation.
hoe_math says societal collapse is imminent due to rampant promiscuity. I’ve seen kids in my city walk around drugged up in broad daylight, sex to them a joke not something beautiful as they wear huge inflated penises (a real thing i saw some 14 year old girls doing).
Some programmer friends believe that AI will end the world within 5 years. Not just because of job losses and the rapid pace of change, but because we are too slow and incapable of controlling it — especially since we give the models free access to the internet and allow them to write and execute new code.
A friend’s baby sister feels the world won’t survive another hundred years, that humanity feels doomed to fail, and why would you have kids then in this world. This is the outlook of someone only barely out of primary school.
And when you look at the people along whom you will have to navigate these challenging times… Everyone looks lost, on their phones, overstimulated, entertaining and being entertained instead of communicating. Smoking and caffeinating and drinking and drowning, each in their own rooms, unable to look out, step out.
So?
Some things are beyond your control. But some are not.
Instead of getting lost in the chaos, overwhelmed by what you can’t control anyways; instead focus on finding your values, living and growing according to those, all the while creating your pocket garden of eden.
You don’t have to partake in the promiscuity. You don’t have to become an anti-social recluse either.
Build a meaningful life for yourself, and if you become capable enough, then you can build a meaningful life for some people around you as well.
Radiate good, and good will reflect back.
(I’m boldly assuming you are striving towards good values… this dungeon master doesn’t allow you to create evil aligned players in the party)
I will gather for myself friends, faith, money, a farm commune, guns enough for a small militia. The world can do whatever it wants, when I’m set up an apocalypse almost sounds fun. I’m good.
Sounds like a high bar?
So be it! Achieving it is a skill issue, so let’s get to work.
PROFICIENCY AT LIFE of course.
Being able to gather what’s needed and build your own pocket of eden. That includes mastery over self, emotional regulation, meaningful relationships, financial proficiency, and the list likely goes on.
But we luckily remain within the domain that can be described by – A SKILL ISSUE.
If you’re finding this useful and want to dive deeper, I have a form linked below. You can access my free Good Gardener guide, which provides more detailed insights, and also register your interest in working with me 1-on-1. This way, I can personally help you implement the practices I cover in my videos.
We will go over actionable steps for relieving this skill issue in the next video, right now let us define the goal we are striving towards.
The building of a pocket eden is a masculine ideal (here I am using David Deida’s concept of masculine and feminine; energies not sexes). So the goal we are defining here is epic mature masculinity.
The School of Life had an essay titled “How to Be a Man”, where they concluded that men should strive to be WARM rather than COOL. That too long we’ve chased to be like a good James Bond, it is time instead to be “vulnerability well handled”.
Let’s have a quick look at both, as presented by the essay.
Not easily achieved, an ideal to strive toward. You not yet being this COOL shouldn’t torture you. But there is nothing wrong with a hefty goal to strive towards.
All of these characteristics can be practiced and improved (a SKILL ISSUE):
There are thoroughly positive aspects I agree with striving towards:
But also weird ones to place as GOALS for masculinity…
Why should you strive to not be able to put out fires and take care of yourself and your loved ones?
Why would you strive to be someone who drops the gun? If the masculine isn’t who does the grudge to protect his loved ones, what is the masculine then?
And laugh at the cocktail spill? Of course! Laugh as you take your jacket off for the shirt reveal. Why would you tip extra for a lousy job? No need to shame the person, but do give them accurate feedback. Don’t rob them of the opportunity to grow. Let them improve their craft and then tip them extra when they don’t spill a drink.
“Vulnerability well handled.”
Awesome! For the times when you are lacking. For when you messed up. For when you are vulnerable.
But you shouldn’t strive to be vulnerable.
The grappling art, nowadays BJJ being the most popular, with the chokes and joint breaks and controls. The fighting that happens on the ground.
It was created in Japan, as a martial art for samurais to learn, when all is fucked and they find themselves unarmed on the ground on the battlefield.
Unarmed. On the ground. In the battlefield.
Not a position where they EVER want to find themselves. Not something they strive towards applying. But since they want to be complete warriors, they admit the possibility of ending up in this unsavoury scenario and practice for it.
Try to never end up using it, but if they have to – don’t panic because they’ve practiced for it.
Strive to be COOL, but when you fail to be such, fail WARMLY.
This isn’t a life or death battlefield so you will fail frequently, and that is perfectly fine. So your warmness will be frequently applicable. But your primary aim should still be to be epic, cool, James Bond as fuck.
And when you are short of being such, act warmly. Vulnerability well handled.
Once you experience growth in one area, it becomes easier to embrace vulnerability in others. Because you know you can achieve cool proficiency, you just haven’t reached it in this new domain YET.
Here comes hoe_maths “be an 8 or above and don’t hoe”; or the analogous creation of your own pocket of eden.
Be EPIC but don’t abuse it. Create GOOD around you.
Don’t be afraid of the improvement and power; get those looks and muscles and influence and money. But once you get it, don’t participate in the chaos and shit-show. Build something better, for you and those closest.
Think of it as your own Noah’s Ark (in comes the bible again, with a story for every situation; wasn’t that punishment of the world also because of societal cultural breakdown and loss of values?).
This is all good with the motivation and direction to take, but leaves a question… how to actually improve and become more EPIC?
In the next video I will go over actionable steps, through the concepts SELF-MAXIMISE and Ken Wilber’s LEVELS. To simplify the growth into achievable steps of skill development, paired with awareness and clarity to not lose your head in the process.
All of the videos are already filmed and edited, I’ll upload them one a day. So check when this was uploaded and either head to the next video or subscribe.
To sum up, the world may be falling apart, but you have the power to build your pocket of Eden, your Noah’s Ark. Strive for EPIC masculinity, strive to be COOL, but when you fail, fail WARMLY. Improve yourself, create good around you, and don’t participate in the chaos.
Remember to check out the form linked below. You can get your hands on my free Good Gardener guide for more in-depth information, and also register your interest in working with me 1-on-1. Together, we can make meaningful progress and bring your goals to life.
Thank you for watching, and remember — be EPIC and don’t participate in the SHIT.
Be a Good Gardener.
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